Category Archives: About Children

Child Centered Play Therapy

(evidence-based approach) CCPT RESEARCH: ‘Play Therapy is the most developmentally appropriate way to approach children in a counselling relationship, and it is in this safe, nurturing environment that children play out what they have experienced, their reactions and feelings about those experiences, what they need in their lives, and how they feel about themselves. Thus,…
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Does your child need therapy?

The start When you feel as though your child might need some extra help, it's the beginning of a journey that you may not finish. You may end up not taking your child to a therapist. Why? Because it can be scary for some parents. The 'what ifs' The 'what ifs' come first. What if…
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'Look at the world through my eyes ....please'.

I often wonder how a child feels when he first comes to counselling. Does he feel frightened or scared or angry? He might think that he has to come to counselling because he's the problem in the family. No one else has to go.

Does he think he's done something wrong and he's being punished? Or is it that he needs help in working out how to be behave properly? It's just that his Mum and his Dad and his teacher and his Granddad and his Grandma and his Mums' friends and his Dads' friends have offered suggestions......and his behaviour hasn't improved!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He might be brave and 'just grin and bear it'. Or he might think he may as well go as he's a failure at everything anyway. Nothing lost!

'Through the therapists' eyes'

I hope he is aware that the therapist is there to provide a safe and trusting environment for him. A place where he feels he can express and explore feelings and thoughts that might or might not worry him. He has the choice.

I hope he knows that he can choose what he wants to do. He can paint; or play in the sand; or drive the toy trucks; or dress up as a hero. The therapist wont be asking him lots of questions. She won't tell him what to do. She knows that he will communicate with her in his own unique way.

She will be with him; listening with her eyes and her ears; supporting him when he's feeling sad or upset. You see she knows that he won't be able to tell her what he's feeling and why his behaviour is what it is. He's not old enough yet.

That's why she offers him 'the toys', not any old toys, but special toys. She knows how expert he will be in using these tools to tell a story; or play out a worry; or communicate with her. Just as adults use words to communicate their ideas, feelings and thoughts, so he will use his natural play skill to do the same.



A strategy to help prep children who are anxious

Telling stories to calm big emotions 'Stories empower us to move forward and master the moments when we feel out of control. When we give them words our frightening and painful experiences-when we literally come to terms with them-they often become much less frightening and painful. When we help our children name their pain and their fears, we help…
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How Play Therapy helps children develop confidence -Part B

Self-efficacy/confidence We all need self-efficacy to cope in life. Self-efficacy is a belief that we are able to perform in ways that will help meet our needs. For example, children with high self-efficacy believe they have many ways to help themselves to learn something new, even if they run into a snag. They are motivated…
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Play therapy helps children develop confidence – Part A

The story of Jill, 8 years In a recent session with a young child name Jill, aged 8 years, I noticed growth in her level of confidence. According to her parents, Jill was not confident at school and so found it very difficult to make friends. She always had to ask other children if she…
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After school activities for preps

Here are some thoughts.... How do children deal with the new routine of prep? I wonder what it would be like for a five year old on his first days at prep? Would he feel happy, sad, afraid, excited or angry? If so how would he express his feelings? If he was at kindergarten, childcare…
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Children are not small adults

Children grow at their own pace I was a teacher before I was a parent. As a teacher I knew that 8 year olds learnt certain skills. When I had my own children this knowledge was further expanded. I needed to respond to each of my children in different ways. Not only were they different…
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Building confidence in your child through play

Play is vital for children Of course we all know that children play. Children's play is one of the most important developmental inputs they will ever have. Hard to believe? When I ask my five year old granddaughter what she would like to do, she always says "Play". She doesn't know that she is developing…
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How to grow respect between you and your child

You matter as much as your child When I had my children all those years ago I thought parenting should come naturally. You didn't and it doesn't. Parenting is a special job for all of us. If you have more than one child you will already know that each child is different and each…
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